There is a easy three step process when faced with criticism.
1. Ask yourself, is it true for me?
It is obviously true for the person saying it or else they probably wouldn't say it. However, that does not mean it is true for you. Trust in your own divine self and check in and ask yourself. Is this true for me? If it is true for you, move to step 2. If it is untrue for you, ignore it. [Future blog post regarding how to reregulate your system after experiencing criticism.
2. If the first answer is yes, now ask yourself, is it something that I want to change?
People often criticize others for something that they think is a big deal. However, that doesn't mean that you think its a big deal. Thus, ask yourself, is this something that I really want to change about myself? If it is not something that you REALLY want to change about yourself, acknowledge the criticism and then ... IGNORE IT!
3. If you answer "yes" to the first two questions, the last step is to develop a personal plan to modify your behavior accordingly. Sometimes, I even ask the person who is offering the criticism, if they will help me. [TRAUMA INFORMED NOTE: only ask that person for help if they are a genuine friend in your life. DO NOT ask that person for help if they are toxic or abusive.]
Once you have a personal plan to adjust your behavior, execute your plan by taking small actionable steps towards your preferred behavior. Give yourself lots of encouragement as you adjust your behavior and give yourself even more grace as you notice you fell back into that habit.
Remember the old saying, if being hard on yourself was effective, it would have worked by now. Be gentle, easy and loving to yourself!